“Hold on to yourself in relationships, be emotionally balanced, and maintain a healthy perspective on things that are upsetting.”
When I read these words it struck me that my emotional balance was an unhealthy one. Too often I listen to those with a contrarian’s view and examine it too microscopically hence I lose focus of what is the middle ground and I tip the scales with someone else’s foot. It is not for me to judge others or myself because I am not Solomon. I can’t weight what I think or what anyone else thinks too heavily else the perspective will be a selfish one. And it matters little if I make it all about me or all about them. It will be delusional to think that my emotional stability can be based how someone else feels about themselves or about me.
When I get upset now it is less about what is than what I think is. My mentor taught me that negative thoughts perceived through the mind without factual evidence to support the chatter in my head are not intuition only low self-esteem. And with facts I can act and not procrastinate. In this way when things arrive that are upsetting I don’t lose my footing.
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At times we are all a mirror image of what is expected of us. Most of us prefer accolades to criticism. Therefore moving in the direction of positive acclaim is more often than not our choice. There is no choice about receiving a pat on the back or a slap in the face. Thank God most of us have the moral fiber to choose what is right in spite of what anyone thinks. We all know exactly who we are and our intentions regardless of what anyone else says about us. We live in our own skin.
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