A word to those that suffer with the still sick and suffering. Not an easy life living with an active alcoholic. You busy yourself on a daily or even hourly basis with rationalizations and live with torture not knowing when it will ever end. Nevertheless you keep on keeping on. Is it out of pure love that you continue taking the abuse you wouldn’t endure for your best friend? You tell yourself he has a disease and he just can’t help himself. Or you hope and pray that he sees the error of his ways and will one day just snap out of it. Any normal person will if given half the chance.
There’s the rub the more you placate and sit idly by because you think you’re helpless the more mired and justified the active alcoholic becomes. If you stop and think that because you tolerate his behavior you have actually made your situation worse and given a permission slip for him to continue his drinking life you might have a different view. Some are sicker than others and that I truly believe because some of us will never escape from the lash of alcohol because we are constitutionally unable to.
So the question becomes where do you get off? How many chances do you give him? What lengths of pain and suffering will you endure? Not easy questions because most of the time we are not prepared to answer them. More on this topic if you want me to continue.
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